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Thursday 16 September 2010
Motivation And Encouragement Through Networking
Thursday 18 March 2010
THE SUNSHINE OF ENCOURAGEMENT
An actress, comedienne and accomplished presenter Jeni’s day time conversation with the general public of London is quite a heroic feat in itself. To be able to sustain and challenge open expression on air requires great stamina as well as a special talent. So it was nice to be one of her guests.
Tuesday 9 March 2010
Mother's Day Next Sunday
A mother’s warmth is the essence of motivation. If we could liquefy the encouragement, care and compassion we deliver to our children it would surely fill an expanse greater than the Pacific. Why can’t we put it to more use?
Friday 26 February 2010
Bullying at Number Ten
Well that’s why charities like Act Against Bullying is so important. Not only do we highlight this important issue to keep it in the news, we actively promote campaigns to counteract the sort of behaviour which leads to scenarios like this one.
Monday 8 February 2010
St. Petersburg Ball
The Children’s Burns Trust, which runs the ball, is a very focussed organisation. They are concerned mostly with providing post trauma help that the NHS can’t run to. That’s because suffering a scald or a burn can mean not just physical agony —undergoing the dozens of skin grafts to release the scar tissue — but also the psychological torment. How hard is it for youngsters to cope with disfigurements at a time in their life when they are at their most sensitive? The financial stress that befalls the family (burns hospitals far away, cost of treatment, child care cover, etc) is bad enough. Add on to this the social isolation that comes along with the unpleasant treatment that often gets dished out to victims and you are talking about lifetime scarring on several dimensions.
'A hot drink can scald a small child up to fifteen minutes after being poured.' Children's Burns Trust
It was great evening, because the event is as glamorous as it possibly can be with stirring orchestral pieces, wonderfully colourful costumes and enthusiastic dancers. Over a great dinner I spoke with Prince Dimitri Lovabov Rostovsky about the traction between The Children’s Burns Trust and Act Against Bullying and Princess Marina about their plans for the future. There’s currently an urgent need for a database of facts and figures relating to child burn and scald victims. There’s also their new scheme to put parents in touch. It is still in the planning stage but I think it’s a great idea. Very encouraging for women who are suffering the guilt, however inappropriate, that can occur after a their child is involved in an accident. Fifty percent of children admitted to hospital have been burnt by hot drinks.
Monday 25 January 2010
Sunshine or Shade? (Or is it how us women are made?)
On the side of the ‘pro’ for this lunchtime event was Laurence Shorter, comic and author of the The Optimist. On the panel of self-confessed, 'apologetic' pessimists were two highly accomplished and perceptive writers Ariel Leve and Lucy Mangan.
At one point Lucy—almost as an aside—suggested that maybe being a pessimist was a woman’s thing.
And I believe she’s right. This is why motivational advice for women is different to the positive power patter that is dished out to men. Our responses to stimuli are rated on another scale. Our physical survival depends on it. According to Barbara Wilding FRSA, ex Chief Constable of South Wales Police, ‘women have an instinct about what makes people safer’. An awareness of danger, whether or not you or your offspring should walk a dark country lane alone after midnight, is a by-product of sensible distrust. But more importantly, as empathisers, which women tend to be – we are more in tune with pessimism. How can you sense someone’s pain if you can’t visualise it? Or comfort using impassive, automated-responses ‘she’ll be right, mate!’. Compassion and cheery platitudes are obviously incompatible.
Could it be that we don’t actually like our women, our mothers, our confidantes to be too optimistic all the time?
In a society where an optimist conjures up ‘sunny and encouraging’ and pessimist ‘depressing and negative’, there is a huge guilt attached to being in the latter camp. I also sense fn intellectual snobbery; optimistic people are perceived brainless sales persons, and disingenuous; pessimistic people more learned, more philosophical, not so 'in your face'.
The complexities of womanhood demand we switch roles constantly; optimist, pessimist, optimist, pessimist …whoops, sorry, optimist, optimist, pessimist, optimist. And at a moment’s notice. But that’s the way women are wonderfully made. It’s a natural, and therefore, successful pattern. There’s a time to shine; a time to shelter. The art, I believe, is in developing an ability to present the right application of gloss or shade at the appropriate time.
To hear a transcript of the event
Monday 12 October 2009
Old Style Courtesy and Hospitality: The CUS
Oh dear. I’m afraid we only managed to convince the house to the tune of 53 votes ‘for’ to the three hundred and somethings ‘against’ (a hundred and something abstentions) that women alone should rule the world. However, I think that most of the ‘team’ on the side of the feminists (and on the other, I might add) were secretly of the same persuasion of the 2007 Pew Global Attitudes survey of 46 countries which found most thought both men and women make equally good leaders if selected on individual merit!
The evening began with drinks and a superb three course dinner for the speakers and senior officers of the Society where I chatted at some length to bursar Colonel Bill Bailey MBE about his recent refurbishment programme and the price of cigars, and to Jan-Jonathan Bock Peterhouse about his ambition to make great art films to express his world views. I look forward to seeing them at Cannes! Twenty minutes before the appointed hour every seat in the Debating chamber was filled and therefore the event began promptly at 8pm.
Louise Court, the very unassuming and pleasant editor of Cosmopolitan spoke first and boldly put forward her well-prepared case for female supremacy. Possibly the fact that he had heard that very day of his promotion from pupil to a permanent seat in Chambers, Cambridge grad Rupert Myers, an experienced, international debater was in particularly feisty, challenging and witty mood. That did not help us! Next to the foray came super business woman Emma Wimhurst who spoke clearly and with great humour about our multi-tasking abilities. She was followed by ex Apprentice runner up James Max who has had ample experience in ‘wind-ups’ of campaigners on his LBC talk show and continued in this style to decimate our proposals.
Speaking third, after the floor had been opened to the students for twenty minutes or so, was fairly challenging. My own view, that women are naturally talented motivational leaders (which they practice on a minute on minute basis from birth with empathy, encouragement and on occasions sheer nosiness for detail) had mostly been covered.
Joking aside, I somehow managed to bring into my humble contribution the stirring passage that has haunted me since I came across it some years ago and which I felt relevant to any political debate of the time. 1969 Apollo Astronaut Rusty Shweickart’s account of viewing Planet Earth from space, of being struck by its total fragility, ‘the precious little spot in the universe’ that could be blocked out by his thumb. How we need to keep perspective on the real challenges of leadership, whether they be taken up by men or women, of being able by any means to avoid conflict at all costs, in order to tackle the issue of our stewardship of the globe and all that involves.
‘The size of it, the significance of it – it becomes both things, it becomes so small and so fragile, and such a precious little spot in the universe, that you can block it out with your thumb, and you realize that on that small spot, that little blue and white thing is everything that means anything to you. All of history and music and poetry and art and war and death and birth and love, tears, joy, games all of it is on that little spot out there that you can cover with your thumb.’ Rusty Shweikhart, Apollo 9 Astronaut, talking about his view of Planet Earth from space. img. courtesty of NASA
Barbara Wilding CBE, the Chief Constable of South Wales Police, the UK’s most senior long serving police officer offered help with her observations of females in the police force over forty odd years. ‘Women are particularly good at emergencies – at responding to the immediate situation while ‘keeping the home fires burning’.
My view is that we currently have an emergency on our hands and that urgent situation has to be addressed. For that reason I concluded that maybe the world would be better if women were in charge, if we were able to take a fresh approach to the aims of leadership; to use our skills of communication and bonding to be able to find common ground during world negotiations on climate change.
A credit to the organisers, October 8th at the Cambridge Union on Bridge Street was a thrilling evening in more ways than one - a lady from the floor leapt up in defence of the personal attack on Cosmo Queen Louise Court to remind Edwina Currie of her four year affair with John Major; And that was just one of the cheeky exchanges which lifted the roof with applause and laughter.
After the debate I stayed on for the debriefing with the gorgeously debonair CUS President Julien Demercq and to chat with Caroline Cummins about life after Cambridge in London and the Freshers Ball which was happening the following evening.
There were several memorable moments, but one of the outstanding recollections of the evening was the warm and welcoming greeting I received from everyone at the Cambridge Union, the electric atmosphere charged by a long sense of tradition, but more than anything, their exceptional hospitality.
Many thanks indeed Cambridge for having me.